Has your life taken you on some unexpected twists and turns?
My marriage definitely has. From where I grew up, to the Philippines, back again, into the ministry and living at camp, and now to Barrie. Definitely not what I envisioned when I started out as a newly married 20 year old! I couldn’t have predicted the route we would have taken. And because of this crazy road we’ve traveled, I wouldn’t even try to predict the route we have ahead of us for the second half!
I was privileged to receive an early copy of the book “Are We There Yet?” by Paul and Terrie Chappell. In this book they use travel analogies to talk about marriage. I knew it would be a helpful read because I’ve read many things written by them, but it was even better than expected. It was full of Biblical and practical advice.
In a chapter entitled Unexpected Turbulence, the Chappells talk about what its like to go through trials together as a couple. I thought this would be a helpful passage to share with you, as we look together for hope in hard times!
“Although you may not be facing intense persecution as a couple, perhaps you are facing an incredible time of trial or pressure. You feel as though you are running from Satan’s attacks, hiding in a cave of loneliness, watching destruction come in the lives of people you love, or facing any type of ongoing trial. Your trial may be financial – perhaps the loss of a job, trouble finding work, bills, debt, bankruptcy. Perhaps yours is health-related. Perhaps you’re dealing with doctors, test, treatment, hospitals, pain, exhaustion. Maybe your trial is a child who is struggling, rebelling, or has left the faith. Maybe you have lost a child or have not been able to have children. Maybe it is an unfaithful spouse, the death of your parents, a child with special needs, a deep life disappointment, a …There are more possibilities than we can name here. But none of these possibilities surpass the grace of God.
These times of trial have the potential to make or break a marriage. On one hand, they can drive us to the Lord and to each other as we seek His help and recognize our need for His grace. On the other hand, we may respond wrongly to the trial and reject God’s grace and allow the stress to drive us away from one another.
God desires to bless you through your times of turbulence as well. Trials do place pressure on the most tender places of our hearts. But rather than allowing the trial to destroy your marriage, let God use it to strengthen your marriage. This happens when you together decide to respond to the trial in faith and trust.”
I hope that if you’re married you’ll consider getting this book. It was a blessing to me and I know it will be to you too – whether or not you’re going through a trial right now.
Its available on October 17th, but you can pre-order it anytime. If you click on this link, you can see what free bonuses you’ll receive when you pre-order.